A GOOD HUSBAND
29.5.02

Has been a while since I have written anything significant in this diary, but I have been busy to write much anyway. Too many assignments are due now that we are coming to the end of the semester. So many grades are dependent on the success of my dodgy essay writing skills.

Anyway, enough excuses. On to the reason I felt I should write here today. I was told yesterday that I would make a good husband some day. Now this has its flaws on many levels. Let me count them out for you. (1) I am not a male. (2) Husband indicates male. (3) Husband also indicates marriage, which I am currently not either for or against. (4) It requires a committed relationship to occur. (5) As a matter of fact it requires ‘A’ relationship to exist. (5) It requires a male to join in holy matrimony with a woman. (6) It requires me to be in a relationship that follows the traditional gender roles. (7) Legally (at the moment) it requires me to be in a heterosexual relationship.

I am glad the person who told me was, I hope, intending the comment to regard to my ability and willingness to carry her bags and open doors etc while in her presence. Which is something I tend to do all the time. Not purely because they are nice traditional husband things to do, but because I feel it is just nice to help people, and do nice things for them. I feel that opening doors, carrying stuff and helping them out is nice.

But I guess I could slip somewhat into the traditional gender roles depending on the relationship, but currently view myself as just that, myself. Not a husband or a wife. The homosexual relationship does not need to complications of what the roles have brought to heterosexual relationships. We can bring in the dough, look after the kids and mow the lawn. Doesn’t matter what set of genitals or mindset we have. We are all capable of doing these tasks. Some just like doing them more than others do.

The breakdown of gender roles in my life due to my homosexuality cannot be seen as a bad thing, I am not open to do the things I like to do and become competent at them even if they have been seen as traditionally a male domain.

Times for things to change I say.